Amanda | LVV Travel

Amanda is an Aussie backpacker who loves adventure, waterfalls and everything outdoors. Together with her husband, Daniel, they have been travelling the world for over two years and run LVV Travel. They share travel and backpacking guides and aim to help backpackers travel adventurously and sustainably.

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  1. Khlodvigi Rostanga
    16 Apr 2019 @ 4:03 am

    Totally agree and it´s good to see others who are also annoyed by this kind of topics. The questions that irritate me are different in a way but analogous in the way i feel when i heard them. I understand people asking it in a way but that does not always help.
    By the way, a similar issue is when i say my occupation and they ask back “no, but what do you do for a living, i mean” 😛 It looks that prejudices are out there and we still find it easy to accept something we didn´t expect beforehand…

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  2. yugi
    21 Jan 2019 @ 12:53 am

    People also ask me where I’m from, since I’m white, but I have an accent. I just say that I’m from Zimbabwe. Most people don’t know where is it and what is it, so they usually stop asking any further questions.

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  3. Pete
    1 Aug 2018 @ 10:59 am

    The question of “where are you really from?” is quite offensive and for sure causes irritation for people who encounter such questions a lot of times. But we can’t stop other people’s curiosity. But I think the right question to ask is and I think not offensive at all is “What is your descent?”

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  4. siarraturner
    7 Jul 2018 @ 11:13 pm

    Vital post. This question is right up there with the “what are you?” question for the racially ambiguous.

    I think it’s important that every be open to learning something new, shedding their ignorance. But sometimes, as a woman of color, it can be frustrating to constantly be in the position of educating others.

    Love this post.

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    • Amanda | LVV Travel
      8 Jul 2018 @ 2:18 pm

      Thanks so much. It’s exhausting being polite huh? “What are you?” – HUMAN!

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  5. Tayo
    7 Jul 2018 @ 7:36 pm

    I can usually tell from the offset where people are getting at with this question. What they are really asking me is ‘why is your skin not white?’ To be obtuse I say I’m from Newcastle, UK and I make them squirm til they have to phrase it in a polite way of finding out about my heritage. Its actually funny to watch when you know they are not happy with the answer you’ve given them. My name is usually where they can get more info ‘oh thats such a nice name, where is it from?’ Until the world becomes so mixed up and diverse we will forever have these questions.

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    • Amanda | LVV Travel
      8 Jul 2018 @ 2:20 pm

      Exactly!! It’s crazy to me that in a diverse country like Australia these questions are still being asked though. People are surrounded by diverse cultures and ethnicities!

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  6. Kathi Kamleitner
    7 Jul 2018 @ 5:43 pm

    So important you call this out! As a white person, I usually don’t get that second “really” questions, but since the Brexit vote in the UK (I live in Britain, but am from Europe) I find even just the first time round rather uncomfortable. It’s that last sentence you wrote – why do you even ask/why do you want to know – it’s difficult to gage sometimes where the question comes from. I hope your fellow country people will learn to understand that Australia (or the US, or the UK or anywhere else really) is not a white nation at all and you belong where you are. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. Nicole
    7 Jul 2018 @ 3:20 pm

    The story of my life!
    It seems to a common trend in homogenous nations. They’re surprised when they learn that I’m American and not African.
    I’ve had many conversations like this:
    “you’re American? You don’t look like it. Where are your parents from?”
    Me: Jamaica
    “Where in Africa is that?”
    Me: it’s not it’s an island in the Caribbean which isn’t part of North America
    “But where is your family from before that?”
    Me: how much time you got. Do you want a lesson on the Atlantic slave trade?

    The funniest had to be a Qatari guy who insisted I was not American but later in conversation said that he loved Obama. Meanwhile I’m like “OBAMA IS HALF BLACK AND HIS WIFE IS A BORN AND BRED 100% BLACK AMERICAN”

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    • yugi
      21 Jan 2019 @ 12:51 am

      But Obama is not American, he is Kenyan.

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