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  1. jenellewitty
    24 Mar 2017 @ 4:26 pm

    Instagram is very aspirational in nature for the masses I think, or at least that is how I have experienced it. For me it is a business. Though there is pressure to have those perfect shots, I have to be real in that I am not a young woman with a naturally stunning bikini body, I workout to keep myself toned. But I do that for myself, and I say that knowing that if you google me I come up as, among other things, “A bikini blogger”. Wonder if they realise I am 34 soon not 18?
    I’ve done backpacking and as I got older I prefer smaller art hotels or airbnb stays, and my travels generally reflect that. We tend to stay in cities or small towns and then talk about what young couples can do as activities in or around that. If people aren’t into it, I don’t expect them to follow me or, as you say, just keep scrolling. I do love reading about all sorts of travel experiences though, ’cause it’s a passion of mine. I love that I can see the world through so many people’s eyes and stories. We are pretty lucky that way!
    I loved this post, so happy to have read it.
    xx Jenelle
    http://www.inspiringwit.com

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  2. Lucy
    19 Mar 2017 @ 9:32 am

    Great article; thanks for the reminder to quieten down my inner demon who gets horribly jealous when I see all the glamorous girls on Instagram! As Alicia Keyes said, you do you!

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  3. Michaela Harrison
    14 Mar 2017 @ 8:44 pm

    I enjoy my Instagram that should be enjoyed by anyone. A photo does not need to perfect as you like that is all that matters.

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  4. Jackie Taylor
    14 Mar 2017 @ 5:33 am

    I agree with many of your points here! I don’t get why some people spend energy on bringing others down.. I definitely agree that we should all just support each other and be positive! Great article 🙂

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  5. Christie
    14 Mar 2017 @ 2:08 am

    OMG, AMEN TO THIS, seriously! It particularly irks me when people assume that because you took a cute photo in a pretty dress that you spent hours getting ready and hours taking photos to get the “perfect shot” when rarely is that the case. I totally agree that we should all be supporting each other instead of being judgmental. If you don’t like the concept of taking photos like that then just don’t…. Ugh!

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  6. Global Girl Travels
    12 Mar 2017 @ 3:13 pm

    Thank you for writing this post. While I haven’t encountered the same comments yet, I can get the context as to the whole conversation that brought this up. I did notice those ‘perfect’ travel photos and while I do not resonate to them, it’s not okay to hate. To each his own, as the saying goes. If you don’t like it or prefer a different kind of travel style, why not pursue what you love instead of bashing others. Pursue your own advocacy rather than shoving other people’s idea of travel and claiming that yours is most authentic! Again, I appreciate how you support other women!!

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    • La Vida Viva Travel
      13 Mar 2017 @ 3:43 pm

      Thanks so much! Totally agree – I haven’t personally received the hate but it does upset me to see other people being treated this way.

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  7. Sophie
    12 Mar 2017 @ 6:18 am

    I really loved this article and it’s so true: why ARE so many people judging/ hating on women for the way they dress, travel, what they wear? I especially dislike it when other women bash other women for the way they dress/ travel. It’s like that quote from Mean Girls where Tina Fey explains that hating on other women normalises it for other women and men. No one is harming anyone and creating those beautiful images is entertainment (plus, those images are a business for a lot of us- we spend hours creating them and yes, I’m one of those girls posting pictures in pretty dresses and wearing bikinis haha). I love that you also touched on the ‘real’ travel argument. All these things are just so annoying, like, we’re lucky to even be able to travel, why are some people hating on others for the ‘way’ they travel? Or even complaining -_-

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    • La Vida Viva Travel
      13 Mar 2017 @ 3:46 pm

      Yes, exactly! Go you, keep doing what you’re doing, Sophie. I personally love looking at beautifully curated photos and appreciate the effort and art behind it!

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  8. Alina from Reverie Chaser
    12 Mar 2017 @ 6:04 am

    So much YES on the point about $2 and not real travel! Rather than minding their own business people want to count how much did you spend on a room (and tell you it was too much!), or ask you how do you launder money that you can afford that…

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  9. Julia Dent (@juliadentphoto)
    12 Mar 2017 @ 1:45 am

    So glad you’re being open and honest about this topic! I totally agree, and women need to stop judging each other!!

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  10. rhiydwi
    11 Mar 2017 @ 7:45 pm

    I love everything about this!
    Personally I take my hats off to the ladies who’ve built their following on bikini shots & looking absolutely perfect on top of mountains, but in equal measure I take my hats off to the ladies who’ve built their following in other ways. As women it’s important we support each other no matter how we go about our lives (obviously as long as we’re not stamping on kittens or anything) and leave the jealousy and resentment behind.

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  11. Chiera
    11 Mar 2017 @ 7:36 pm

    PREACH! I hate seeing stuff like this because it is just dragging other women down! Dude if I could hike a mountain in a full face of makeup and still look fresh at the top I’d post thise pictures everywhere! Let everyone do their own thing, I just dont get hate for the sake of it. This is (sadly) the first post Ive read with this Viewpoint so YES! Thank you for this!

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  12. Raymond Carroll
    11 Mar 2017 @ 6:42 pm

    Good read. Women in most societies definitely get a rough ride in comparison to men. The key – I believe, to living a happy, stress-less life is to stop caring too much about what other people think. In regards to travel pictures and writing where we put ourselves out there – our bodies, our thoughts and feelings, our opinions etc. – in my case, I couldn’t give a hoot whether or not people like my stuff, or loathe it. I try to try my best with most things in life and if some people don’t like my efforts, then who cares – not me, that’s for sure! People are strange – jealousy, intolerance, close-mindedness, ignorant judgements, racism, sexism… the list is endless – these people are all out there and they’re not going away. Although it is right for you (and brave) to stand up and be counted if you see injustices in the world. I am 46 years old and stopped caring what people think a few years ago. Good luck and safe travels. Thanks for sharing!

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  13. Only By Land
    11 Mar 2017 @ 6:31 pm

    This is an interesting post, I agree with it completely. I agree that Instagram is not a place for holiday photos with people smiling at the camera (or cute babies), these belong on facebook. Instagram is a business and posing for the photo like the first picture gets likes. Likes is what can make money, for example if she does this pose in a hotel somewhere.

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    • La Vida Viva Travel
      13 Mar 2017 @ 3:48 pm

      I think Instagram can be used for whatever people want to use it for. It’s just most of the time, the hate is towards accounts that are clearly businesses which is why I used this as an example.

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  14. Alison Vosbergen
    11 Mar 2017 @ 5:02 pm

    This is an important and interesting observation about our society. It says more about the person doing the put-down, than the actual “criminal” photographer who dared to style a photo to suit their niche audience. Jealousy can be very ugly indeed.

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  15. Traveling Bytes
    11 Mar 2017 @ 3:31 pm

    Ironically, you touched a profoundly global issue. This division into two camps is present seemingly everywhere. From relatively harmless things like travel photos to lifestyle to religion, it looks like understanding and tolerance are forgotten virtues for disturbingly large groups of people. The saddest thing is that any reasonable discussion gets drowned under loud and often baseless accusations. Why humans just can’t get along?

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  16. Brooke
    11 Mar 2017 @ 2:50 pm

    Thanks for writing this! I remember once sharing an Uber with a lady in Bali we had a great conversation about development in Kenya (where I’d volunteered and she’d worked for a nonprofit). We exchanged contacts and when I visited her Instagram account…it was all beach/bikini shots! Goes to show social media is NOT an accurate representation of a person.

    “Perfect” travel photos are a challenge to shoot and though I wouldn’t haul all that extra stuff around on a hike just to look good in photos, I respect other people’s choices to do so. Of course, if their good-looking shots are complimented by informative/engaging content, I’d like it even more 🙂

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